Monday, May 25, 2015

narrowing things down

Good news is that the dossier is finally starting to come together (read:  I finally kicked myself into high gear).

A breakdown:
  • 35: total number of items needed for the dossier
  • 7:  total number of items left until completion
  • 4:  number of pieces of paper we've requested but have yet to receive
  • 2:  pieces of paper left for us to fill out
  • 1:  adoptive parents we need to interview/get a reference from

It's my goal to complete all this paperwork this week if at all possible so we can get everything notarized and agency-reviewed the week following, and then hopefully by mid-June get apostilles on the paperwork* and get everything off to China - FINALLY.

We do have some other news on the adoption front.  As many of you know, we have requested to be matched with a girl or twins, and in the case of twins, either two girls or a boy/girl.  There was a discrepancy in our home study and so the U.S. government narrowed down our request for us to either a girl or in the case of twins, girls.

We had two options:
  1. Pay an additional $360 and delay our paperwork another 4-6 weeks to get the U.S. government's decision reversed to include a boy/girl if twins.  Even with that, there's no guarantee we'd be matched with boy/girl twins.
  2. Take it as a sign and don't touch the paperwork and save the $360.

We've decided to take it as a sign, so we know now that we will have a daughter -- the question is just if we'll have one or two!

If you all could specifically pray for a few things for us:
  • That the paperwork we're waiting on from others will arrive in the mail this week (CJ's employment letter, our birth certificates from the state Department of Health, CJ's doctor sign-off, etc.)
  • That we will be matched with twins.

*The Indiana Secretary of State has to review all of the notarized documents to make sure they have been done properly and that the notary is valid.

Saturday, May 16, 2015

yes, we're still adopting.

I feel like I'm on repeat sometimes:  Yes, we're still in the process.  I'm still working on paperwork.  And it's not that there is that much paperwork that needs to be done, but that life is so unbalanced for me/us right now that I can barely wrap my hands around it -- and can barely wrap my hands around becoming a parent with the way life is going right now.

So since I last updated, we've I've been working on our dossier.  Today, for the first time, I think I have more check marks next to the requirements than I have empty spaces, so it's coming!
  • Fingerprinting - for U.S. Citizenship & Immigration / FBI
  • Background checks - again, with our local department
  • Doctor appointment - I went yesterday.  CJ went back in December, of which his tests would technically still be good, but there are a few required tests that aren't part of normal blood work, such as an HIV test.  As a paramedic and as a nurse, he's had quite a few HIV tests over the years, but of course, none of those have happened within the past year, so he'll have to get an appointment scheduled soon.
  • Requested birth certificates - That cost us $30 to get them from the state.  I work two blocks away from the county health department in the county in which I was born, but that's not good enough...and it has to be issued within the past six months...
  • Received our new marriage certificate...because the old one isn't good enough either.
  • Took photos around the house and had to clean up our future child's room first (it's where we do all of our projects now).
  • Requested updated reference letters from our employers and friends (thank you!)

So that's that.  We'll keep trucking along and get this done one of these days...